Planning any sexual resolutions for 2023? Reflecting on new activities to try with your partner(s)? Look no further than SEXPLETIVE’s Yes, No, Maybe List!
A yes, no, maybe list is a catalog of different sex activities for you (and perhaps your partner as well) to fill out. The “yes” column is for acts that you want to try or have tried and enjoy; the “maybe” column is for acts you would consider trying; the “no” column is for acts that you are uncomfortable performing.
Commonly used in sex therapy and kink negotiations, yes, no, maybe Lists can be a beneficial tool for everyone to reflect on their sexual values and interests.
As with any discussions around sex and any sexual activity, consent is at the core of a yes, no, maybe list. If you are filling it out alongside a partner, pick a time and space that is comfortable for both of you. If you are discussing your choices, do so with respect, curiosity, and bodily autonomy, and give each other space to say “pass” if they do not want to explain their choice. As a general rule, do not ask your partner to explain why they selected “no” for a specific sexual activity. Respect their answer and move on!
A yes, no, maybe list also assumes that the listed activities are done with enthusiastic consent. If your partner selects “yes” for receiving anal sex, you cannot just have anal sex with them whenever - you absolutely always need to check-in and discuss going forward from this activity!
Feel free to download, print, fill-out, and compare lists! There is space at the end to add whatever other activities your brain can dream up! Happy New Year <3
